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Adjusting to a change in income

We all know it’s sometimes hard to make ends meet even when we are living as a couple.  It can get harder when living as a separated dad as it is more expensive living as a single.  Not only are you now paying all your living expenses on your own but you most probably have additional expenses in way of child support and assistance for your children and/ or just the added expense of caring for the children whilst in your care.
Don’t go it alone if you need help! Ask around and you will be surprised how much free help and assistance there is.  There are lots of places you can go to get your finances sorted but the first step is to make a budget and workout your limits.
There was a study conducted not that long ago on post-separated fathering by The Australian Institute of Family Studies which found that men appeared to be generally ‘unaware of and unprepared for separation.  This can mean that men do not approach their finances as an important factor in maintaining a positive parenting environment i.e. doing a budget will help you not spend more than you earn.  This is critical for your health and well-being and this is important for your children.
The Australian Government has provided some great tools and resources to assist you with information that will help you through these life events such as separation and divorce.  There is a great Budget Planner that helps you think about your money and looks at what is essential and what could be cut back if necessary to get you through this period.

If you feel you need urgent help to sort out your bills and prepare a budget, you can call 1800 007 007.  This free hotline is open from 9.30am – 4pm Monday to Friday.  When you call the number you will automatically be transferred to the phone service in your state where a financial counsellor will help you.

Aussie parents increasingly helping their children with home loans

parents helping kids with home loan depositToday it’s becoming far more common for parents in Australia to help their adult children buy their first home. Many young couples are turning to this option since breaking into the market is more difficult than it was in the past. There are actually several ways that parents are assisting their kids make this major step, and they are each becoming more common in Australian society.

Housing prices are increasing, as are parent loans:

Housing prices arerising at a rate of around 10% each year and many first-time buyers are feeling the pinch. This increase in prices is consequently making it difficult for young couples to purchase their homes or even make a down-payment. The result? In the past few years, 1 out of 3 first go-around homebuyers received an initial deposit from their parents! This trend is one that appears to be growing throughout Australia. Altogether, Aussie parents are contributing over $100 million annually to help their adult children establish themselves as homeowners.

While one-third of young adults will receive their shove from the nest in the form of a deposit, four-fifths are receiving some sort of financial support with the purchase of their first property. This assistance comes in the form of a home-loan, a loan guarantor or a deposit. Services like 1300 Home Loan are showing an increase by young couples in searches for mortgage brokers and home loan comparisons that refer to parents as guarantors. According to news.com.au, an incredible 80% of first-time home buyers are actually given some sort of financial assistance from mum and dad!

Lending and Giving:

One of the options a parent has is to buy a home for their children in their own name, and entrust it to them later. This way, they maintain control over the property. Eventually, ownership of the property will transfer to their adult children. However, prior to that point in time their son or daughter can live in the property. This strategy helps to protect your investment against potential divorce. At the point of transfer, the capital gains tax is applied.

helping children with home depositParents can also lend or give their children money to help with the purchase of a home. This amount might pay for down payment or be enough to cover the entire property cost. Parents do this at a risk – if the son or daughter’s marriage ends in divorce, some of the family’s estate could be lost.

Another popular option is for parents to treat the payment for the purchase as a loan. This option can help avoid the loss of the expenditure should the marriage be terminated for any reason. For a loan of this nature, it is of utmost importance to make sure necessary paperwork is complete. It may help if the parents maintain some sort of responsibility for the home, say in the form of a mortgage agreement.

It’s important to note that your superannuation is a retirement benefit available when you reach age 65. It may also be available when you meet other conditions. However, it is not for a property purchase for your children.

With the increase in real estate prices, there are many ways that Aussie parents are helping their grown kids get ahead. If this is something you’re considering for your own kids, take the time to look at your options, check out the restrictions, tax considerations, and advantages, and speak to the experts.

Cutting costs – 3 Ways to keep down your home bills

cut costsBills are some of the biggest financial strains that people have to deal with week to week. Most people have to deal with more than a few different kinds of utility bills. The biggest problem people have with bills is the fact you cannot really do anything about them. You need your utilities so you need to pay your bills, but there are some methods to lower the amount you are paying week to week. These are the top three you can manage. Every method you take is money in your pocket. Money you need more than they do.

 

Solar Power

Solar power seems like it wouldn’t be worth it and in the short term it isn’t, however in the long term there are very few better ideas. For the cost of a few simple and basic installations you can get most of your power bill cut off. The government reimburses you for any power the solar generators make and if you make enough you can even turn a small profit. At very least, this will cut your power bill into manageable pieces. A good cost cutting measure if you are willing to go the distance.

 

Water Tank

A rainwater tank is one of the easiest and most effective cost cutting measures readily available. A simple tank designed to catch any excess rain and run it into your own system, dissolving any external need for washing or drinking water. For the cost of the tank, a water filtration system and the occasional maintenance cost, you can save thousands of dollars in the long term. Water tanks are available in a range of sizes and types that will suit your aesthetic and water supply needs.

 

Shop Around for Utilities

Water and power and pretty much non-neogotiable, there are only a few water companies and Energex is pretty much the only option for power, but when it comes to other services, PayTV, phone, internet, all of these things are markets and like all markets they are negotiable. They can, with a little research and effort, be reduced. Taking advantage of special offers, playing the companies off against each other and only paying for what you actually use can cut your bills down to something manageable. Get out there and look around, you might find what you need.

 

Cutting costs is one of the most important things you can do to keep a stable financial situations and keeping your weekly costs down is a big part of that. Taking these steps and a few more will allow you to have a little extra spending money in your pocket every week, or to use your savings to pick up that big luxury purchase down the track. With a little extra thought and effort you can get what you need.

 

Parenting on a Low Income: Money Doesn’t Equal Love

parenting on a low incomeEvery parent wants to do a good job raising their kids.  Many parents with low incomes sometimes worry about how they can provide certain financial based items and activities to their kids. This can cause stress.  Will their kids be as happy as the children of wealthier parents?  Will their kids have to miss out on expensive extracurricular activities?  After all, what parent doesn’t want the best things for their children? 

If you’ve found yourself thinking these thoughts lately, rest assured that parenting on a low income doesn’t ensure an unhappy childhood for your children.  There are a variety of ways to enrich your little one’s life without spending a fortune.  With a little extra effort, your child can have a wonderful and full childhood.

 

  • Your attention is the most valuable thing your can give your child.  More than they want the latest toy or gadget, your children desperately want your love and attention.  Listen to them as they tell you about their days.  Take the time to watch as they explain the features of their favorite toy. 
  • Arrange for play dates with other children.  Many kids’ favorite memories are of the times they spent with their friends.  Want to build those same memories in your child?  Make sure that they have ample opportunities to get together with their friends or family.  Host two or three of your children’s friends for an afternoon.  If possible, let the friends’ parents reciprocate.  The kids will have fun and each parent will get an afternoon to themselves. 
  • Take advantage of all the things your local library has to offer.  Your local library can be a treasure trove of free or inexpensive activities for your children.  Most libraries have story hours for younger children.  In addition, many offer craft classes or other activities.  While you’re at the library, be sure to check out a travel guide or two about your own city; they are sure to highlight a variety of children’s activities in your area. 
  • Arrange a toy swap for your kids.  Ever notice how your kids love getting new toys?  As soon as the novelty wears off, though, many toys are left to collect dust.  Who wants to spend their hard-earned money on a toy that their little one plays with for a few days and then forgets?  A toy swap between friends or family members can be the perfect solution for this situation.  Invite a few friends over for the swap while requiring each child to bring a present that they no longer want.  (No broken toys please.)  Place each child’s contribution on a table, and let everyone select a new (to them) toy.  Everyone will leave with something new to enjoy without spending a dime. If you don’t have the family or friends, a great way to refresh your toys is to visit a Toy Library, there are over 160 libraries around Australia.
  • Consider secondhand options for necessary purchases.  Some expenses related to raising children can’t be avoided.  Clothing, for example, is a constant need for children as they continue to grow.  You can greatly reduce this cost, however, by turning to secondhand shopping options.  Shopping at Salvos store, resale shops, garage sales and even eBay can be a great way to keep your kids clothed in style for a bargain price.  As you shop, look for items that can fill other needs, too; toys, school supplies, and even electronics can often be found for less than half their original prices. 
  • Spend time on everyday activities: walking in and around parks playing ball games, take your basketball to the local court and shoot a few baskets, ride your bikes along the numerous bike paths, show your children a skill that you have learned like repairing a bicycle puncture, fixing a leaking tap, changing a light globe, brush and grooming the dog or cat, changing the cars window wiper blades.

 

Negotiate Your Way to a Better Deal

negotiate a better dealPeople often associate negotiations with deals between companies or purchases but in reality, the average person makes dozens of negotiations every single day. Whether it’s discussion with an (ex)spouse, pleading with children, or coming to a consensus on dinner plans with friends – negotiating is a part of everyday life.  While everyone inevitably engages in some form of negotiation, not everyone is skilled at it. Luckily, it doesn’t require years of business classes to become a great negotiator. And the benefits of becoming a great communicator can be tremendous. Keep the following things in mind for future negotiations.

Preparation

Regardless of the focus of your negotiations, you must do extensive research beforehand. For example, if you begin negotiations to purchase a used car but you haven’t researched current market prices for the make and model in question, the seller is going to spot your lack of preparation and take advantage of it. The seller could set the starting price much higher than current market prices suggest, playing off of your ignorance. Preparation also involves knowing exactly what it is you want out of the deal and defining your bottom line. Writing these things down before you begin negotiating can act as a control which will prevent you from making unwise decisions in the heat of the moment.

Honesty

Honesty really is the best policy in negotiations. Being dishonest or omitting certain information during a negotiation will only hurt you later on when the truth comes to light. Remember that the goal of any negotiation isn’t to force your opponent to take a bad deal, but rather to find a compromise that will be advantageous for both parties.

 Patience

Don’t let your own impatience drive you to take an undesirable deal. Negotiations that occur over long periods of time can actually be helpful since both parties have ample time to fully consider the consequences of the deal. On the flipside, negotiations with your children may not be long and drawn out but LOTS of patience may be needed.

Assistance

Don’t ever be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. If the particular negotiation you are involved in has high stakes, it may be a good idea to consult an attorney, an expert negotiator, or simply speak with a trusted friend or family member. Consulting someone outside of the negotiation can give you a fresh perspective and potentially provide valuable insight.

 Options

Having a variety of options can work to your advantage in any deal. If you are planning on purchasing a home for instance, you should speak with several realtors about different locations. Once you have been quoted prices for all of the possibilities, you can use the price ranges as tools of negotiation. Let all the realtors know that you have other options and will only accept the best deal. This provides leverage which ensures you will get a bigger discount in the end.

 Practice

Confidence is what you stand to gain through practice and it will go a long way in earning you a great deal. Before a big negotiation, use role plays to practice with friends, family, or co-workers. You can try out different negotiation tactics and see which ones suit your personality best and remember the old saying “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar”

Good negotiation skills can mean the difference between a satisfied customer and buyer’s regret. Keep these tips in mind and you should find yourself walking away from your next negotiation with a smile and a great deal.

Top tips to deal with children’s expenses

top tips to deal with childrens expensesStress and emotional pain of a separation can be exacerbated by worrying over expenses for your children.  Let yourself focus on the important things in life, and work on discovering strategies that will help you to find workable solutions to your financial stress.  Here are some tips on how to deal with your kids expenses when you’re separated.

Create a Budget

It is essential to allocate time to talk to the other parent about your child’s expenses.  From the beginning of the separation, there needs to be a clear allocation of costs and contributions.  This will help to maintain a stable relationship between the two of you for the benefit of your children.  Parenting while separated is difficult, but you can make the process a lot easier if you both know which expenses you are each expected to look after.

Medical Bills

This can be a difficult topic, as the parent that has the children the most often feels obliged to pay for day to day medical bills. While this might be ok for the majority of small bills, they may not be able to extend their budget to accommodate the significant medical expenses that can be incurred through injury or serious sickness.  One option that seems to work well is that all expenses over a predetermined amount are split between both parents.

For example, anything under $50 might be covered by whichever parent has custody of the child at the time, while everything over this amount is a shared expense.  Keeping all the receipts and having a financial meeting every few months can ensure that this arrangement continues to work efficiently.

Childcare

While splitting the expense of medical bills can work quite well, sharing the cost of childcare can be slightly more problematic.  If both parents are paying equally, it can raise issues when the child is looked after by a family member, or maybe has an outing with one of the parents on a designated care day.  One parent can be left feeling cheated, and resentment can build with the sentiment that their payments aren’t being used correctly.

A way around this dilemma is for each parent to pay for the days that they need to have the child in care.  This way, if you choose to have your child looked after by grandparents or have taken a day away from work to spend with the kids, the other parent won’t feel like they are funding your time off.

Don’t let the separation become even more difficult by arguing over finances.  Have a clear plan from the very beginning that is fair, and remember to always make your decision based on what is best for your children.  If you’d like a professional opinion on creating a budget or handling difficult debt issues after a separation, remember to contact a debt specialist.  They can help you to get back on your feet and take control of your financial situation so that your children have a secure and stable future.

 

Guest Post Written by Emma Jane

Getting, changing or updating your Will

changing or updating your willCircumstances can change. We can’t assume the present needs of our children will be their future needs, you may not own the same assets in one year that you own in another, you might remarry, separate, divorce or anything.

There are lots of reasons for changing or updating your will e.g:

  • you start a new business
  • you get remarried or start a de facto relationship
  • you get divorced
  • you separate from your wife/partner
  • your children grow up
  • your assets increase substantially
  • you join or leave a superannuation scheme
  • you dispose of assets mentioned in the will
  • a beneficiary or executor dies, etc.

And, although it sounds like a drag, you should check your will at least every three years.  Lock it in with the annual dentist appointment that many of us never get to 🙂

How can I change my will? (special offer below)

There are two ways to change your will:

  1. Make a codicil to your current will.  A codicil is a legal addition to the will.  There are special rules about codicils, so it’s a good idea to get a solicitor to do this.  A codicil must be signed and witnessed in the same way that the will is.  The solicitor will sometime tell you that it is better to make a whole new will, especially if there are major changes.
  2. If you make a new will. This automatically cancels any earlier wills.

Your will is cancelled if:

  1. You marry or remarry.  The only exceptions to this are if you make your will in contemplation of the marriage.  There are different rules about this, depending on whether the will was made before or after November 1989 (when the law changed), but the best advice is to always state explicitly that the will is in contemplation of marriage – this sort of will should always be handled by a lawyer.
  2. You destroy the original with the intention of revoking it.  If the will is destroyed by accident you will need a new will.
  3. You include a “revocation clause” in a later will, i.e. you write in the later will that the earlier will is to be cancelled.
  4. You make a valid new will. This automatically cancels an old will when the terms of the later will contradict the previous one.

What about if I get divorce?

Divorce does not automatically cancel a will.  If you want to change your will when you divorce, you will have to make a new will. Nevertheless, divorce revokes any gift that is made to a former spouse and the appointment of the spouse as executor, trustee or guardian.

These gifts and directions will not fail if the court is satisfied the will-maker intended them to stand despite the divorce.  It is always best to make a new will after a divorce to avoid any doubt about your real intentions.

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Ben says:  During the ridiculous levels of stress that always come with separation, it’s easy to forget your will (if you have one – which you should).  Divorce changes your legal situation, as does getting together with someone new, so make sure you review this situation from time to time.

He also says, another issue you should think about is whether or not having an Enduring Power of Attorney would be helpful. This is a powerful document that lets somebody you trust implicitly manage your legal, financial, personal and health affairs on your behalf, if you are unable to do so. This is particularly relevant for elderly Australians however everybody should have an EPOA in place.

Have you got a realistic budget?

Establishing a realistic budgetI needed to be completely honest with myself,  I couldn’t hide debt and expect to have a budget that would work.  So I added everything up and didn’t forget to add in the food, beer, petrol, iTunes downloads, books, movies and gifts for the kids.  They are all legitimate and definite expenses for us dads.

If you don’t put them down you will always be short at the end of each month.

Be sure to include your periodical bills too.  Once you have a total of what you feel is everything? go back over your statements, you can normally see 12 months history online.  Look for car servicing, dental work, holidays and items that are not regular but pop up from month to month.  Add them in too.

Add up everything and divide by 12, this will give you a monthly commitment.  Subtract it from your take home pay and you may find you have a shortfall. Many people spend 110% of their salary.

We need to try and cut it back, so this is where we look at prioritizing.  We will not be able to make a budget work by thinking now you can cut back on the second glass of beer or wine at dinner.  Look at significant changes that will mean something and you will feel the benefit such as: Cancel your foxtel subscription, Suspend your Gym membership (many people do) over the summer months, outside exercise is amazing during summer, make your lunch at home and take to work everyday (I save about $300 a month doing this).  Back off your internet usage and reduce your commitment to the provider.  There are other area’s I am sure you can think off too – No better time than to cancel them today.

I’m sure that if there are CPA’s out their that have been through divorce or separation, they will acknowledge it’s challenging keeping finances in order when going through divorce.  Most men enter into separation unprepared and do not realise that having a good financial budget is one of the keys to maintaining positive parenting.  I have posted more on this topic here.

A good BUDGET CALCULATOR to use is located here and it has an online version or an excel version.  I have used the online version as it is very simple and you can save your budget within the site anonymously and refer back to it from time to time.

If you feel you need urgent help to sort out your bills and prepare a budget, you can call 1800 007 007.  This free hotline is open from 9.30am – 4pm Monday to Friday.  When you call the number you will automatically be transferred to the phone service in your state where a financial counsellor will help you.